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  • Tara Foulkes

Its good to cry!

I think that there are two types of people out there, those who cry at anything and those who don’t! I know that I am definitely a crier, some may say a bit of a baby!

I’m empathetic, so I feel other people’s emotions. It’s just one of those things, I’ll be watching X Factor and they do a cracking performance, then that’s it, I’m in tears! Or, somebody tells me that their partner has treat them really nicely and done something special, again, that’s it, I’m in tears!

It can be quite embarrassing! I’m not as bad now as I was when I first had my children, then someone just had to say that their child had managed to stand on their own, and I was in tears!

A great article in the Medical News Today discusses how crying is a natural response to human emotions, sadness, grief, joy or frustration (Burgess, 2017). I should know, I have shed tears for all of these!

In the US, women cry on average 3.5 times per month with men 1.9 times per month (Becht & Vingerhoets, 2002). I guess that based on this, I’m unusual as this might be my weekly ratio!

But, the good news is that there are lots of benefits in crying? Remember the saying, “you always feel better after a good cry?” Well, Science is starting to back this up:

  1. A 2014 study found that crying activates your parasympathetic nervous system, you’re on board calming system(Gracanin, Blysma, & Vingerhoets, 2014). I’m not convinced it works as well as the calming breath, but, the evidence is there.

  2. Crying is an attachment behaviour, according to a 2016 study. They found that it creates a social benefit by gaining support from others as the crying triggers support and an attachment response in us (Millings, Hepper, Hart, Swift, & Rowe, 2016).

  3. Crying actually releases oxytocin and endorphins which make us feel good and may ease physical and mental pain, therefore, it can reduce pain, increase well-being and improve mood (Millings, Hepper, Hart, Swift, & Rowe, 2016).

  4. Crying can contain stress hormones, so it’s a great way of these being flushed out of the body (Murube, 2009).

  5. Can help you sleep, a study took place which looked into babies, adults are yet to be researched (Gradisar, et al., 2016). However, you and I both know that you always feel sleepy after a good cry, especially a good one!

  6. It fights bacteria and cleans your eyes out.

So, Its good news for all of us overly emotional characters out there, our body is working in the way that nature intended and we are getting added health benefits as a result!

However, just an added note of caution before you go. It’s one thing to be a regular crier, but, it’s another if this is lasting for a longer period or you feel sad and cry all of the time. There may be something else going on, so I would recommend talking to your GP or health professional?

In the meantime, the FREE heart-breathing hypnotherapy audio download may help you get back in touch with who you are.

Have a great day and if you like what you read please share.


Becht, M., & Vingerhoets, A. (2002). Crying and Mood Change. Cognition & Emotion, 87-101.

Burgess, L. (2017, October 7). Benefits of crying: Why its good to shed a few tears. Retrieved from Medical News Today:

Gracanin, A., Blysma, L., & Vingerhoets, A. (2014). Is crying a self-soothing behaviour? Frontiers in Psychology, 502.

Gradisar, M., Jackson, K., Spurrier, N., Gibson, J., Whitham, J., & Williams, A. (2016). Behavioural Interventions for Infant Sleep Problems: A randomized controlled trial. Paediatrics.

Millings, A., Hepper, E., Hart, C., Swift, L., & Rowe, A. (2016). Holding back the tears: Individual differences in adult crying proneness reflect attachment orientation and attitude to crying. Frontiers in Psychology, 1003.

Murube, J. (2009). Hypothesis on the development of psychoemotional tearing. The Ocular Surface, 171-175.


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